Another possible motivation for sleeping on the couch: avoiding an argument or brewing conflict. "It's also a bad sign if your partner sleeps on the couch as a way of totally avoiding the conflict,. The problem can’t be written off because he is a diabetic. You asked how could a man push his wife into another man’s arms. The answer. When we become disconnected it's easier to remain disconnected. I've found three things that are completely in my control to help me better and more consistently connect with my wife: 1) go to bed at the same time each night, 2) block out at least 15 minutes per day for just her and I, and 3) pray for her every day and pray with her.